Forum:KB:Novel "Children of the Jedi" - conflict with Prequel Trilogy?

Hi, new to here so please forgive me if I make any gaffes in this post. I have tried a search for any information on or discussion of the EU novel "Children of the Jedi," by Barbara Hambly, with regards to a major plot point of the Prequel Trilogy

I specifically thought of this novel when I saw Episode II, with the secret relationship that Anakin and Padme are forced to have because Jedi aren't permitted relationships, and I've been wondering about this issue for years now!

I admit, it's been even many more years since I read the novel, but I remember that the refuge of Jedi targeted by the automated dreadnought was supposed to have been inhabited by Jedi and their families hiding from the Empire's Purge.

Granted, Lucas' films take priority over any EU continuity, but I am wondering if anyone has come up with, or can come up with, reconciliation of a Jedi order that allows for marriage and children and a Jedi order that virtually forbids such emotional ties?

(Not to mention the marriage of Luke Skywalker and Mara Jade, although I would guess that by that point, the spirits of Yoda, Kenobi et al. would possibly agree that Luke was free to bring back the Jedi order in his own way and not necessarily resurrect the old traditions that got the old order and the Old Republic into so much trouble in the first place!)

Anyone have thoughts on this?